Hi there! I know, it’s been too long! Since I last posted, I did indeed find a new job and it was exactly what I “wanted.” Oh, how sweet that laundry list of …”things/qualities/accomplishments I want to check off and once those are all accomplished then life will be perfect!!!” NOT!
I noticed that after the Honeymoon period subsided, I started to feel those very familiar pangs of uncertainty. Ahhhhhh! I was waking up very anxious again, neglecting my self-care (coupled with a long, long commute!), feeling very defensive or “why me?” about my work, starting to isolate myself in my office. Not pretty! and not very enjoyable if I may say so. I became very resentful of those around me who seemed to have it all together and I was resetful of the very job that I asked the universe to give me!
The lesson I learned so far is that no matter what situation I am in, if I am not taking care of myself then I cannot be there to help others, which is heavily required in my current position and I think on a larger scale, a part of my journey in this lifetime.
A hard lesson to learn, but one that I am thankful to be continually reminded of.
As healers, empaths, counselors, helpers we all deserve to feel happy! If I went to my dentist and he looked tired, fatigued, and sullen…I wouldn’t let him touch my mouth with a ten foot pole! In the same way, energy workers and therapists alike should take that time to recharge and re-energize. I would tell my dentist to take the day off so why shouldn’t I do the same? The challenge of being a helper (as I have learned in my experience) is that we feel guilty for taking time for ourselves or being a little selfish. Why take the day off when my dear friend Susie has so much going on! She needs me!
Hold the phone! It’s ok to be there for Susie and support her, but it’s less ok to absorb (mentally, emotionally, spiritually) and make Susie’s burdens your own. Easier said than done, I know.
I am here today to say “Reclaim the seflish!” It’s ok. Set your emotional boundaries and let people know what you can and cannot do! Keep your expectations of yourself realistic. We cannot save anyone at the end of the day. Take that spa da, schedule in daily time for spiritual practice or whatever it is you need to know that you have honored your needs, your time, your health, your happiness.
Sending all my love xoxo